To live a more meaningful, productive life with others here are six, research-based ways to nudge yourself into actually changing how you see situations and act in them.

Use your feelings of outrage and sadness about the Sandy Hook shooting as fuel to hone your capacity turn more situations into opportunities to bring out others happier and higher-performing side. All of us can reduce violence by using connective cues to boost convivial behavior before hurt feelings turn into violent action. Here are eight ways to act and speak to others’ positive intent, especially when they appear to have none.

If you’re new to MovingFromMeToWe.com, you may want to subscribe to our RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!Years ago a candidate for California Superintendant of Schools repeatedly insinuated that his opponent was lying on her business tax returns and had an affair with a student intern. His charges were immediately disputed by her accountant, the student [...]

Simplify. It’s clarifying. Only then can one can focus. Focus on what is really going on. From the inside out What do you feel right now?  What most matters to you? What is happening, truly happening with those in the scene you are playing out right now? What best serves the situation?  My friend Nate says, [...]

“.. .she pointed the audience to people who were great examples of living their dreams with a very motivating and empowering attitude,” Heather Parlato wrote about Colleen Wainwright. Praising individuals in the audience is especially helpful when facing a tough crowd as I described in a comment here. Bill Clinton, at his best, is a [...]

Just as Daniel Gilbert discovered in Stumbling on Happiness that we aren’t adept at knowing how happy we will be in the future, Gal Zauberman and John G. Lynch found that we get it wrong about how much free time we’ll have. They dryly dub this effect, “Resource Slack.” 

Something in yesterday’s “Modern Love“ column struck me as ringing true, not only for enduring marriages but for flourishing friendships, “Being single is all about the future, about the person you’re going to meet at Starbucks or after answering the next scientific compatibility questionnaire. Being married, after a certain point, is about the past, about a steadily [...]

• “Bank fees are like financial wedgies.”• “One of the founding fathers of rock and roll has left the building he helped construct.”• “Eat food, not too much, mostly vegetables.”Guess which of those colorful one-liners you’re most likely to remember – and repeat to others?