Archive for the 'Friendship' Category

Grow Your Member Organization by Collaborating With Members and Other Groups

Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

Become an opportunity-maker for the member organization that most matters to you. Imagine that your association or special interest group kept innovating to create more value and meaning for members.
That’s what TED has done and we can too by taking three collaborative steps over time:
1. Offer a single major conference  – as most associations already [...]

Five Ways to Bring Others Closer

Monday, June 21st, 2010

Even though we know we are more likely to savor life and attract more opportunities to collaborate when we click with others, we often get in our own way – especially when we are distracted or worse.  Here are five concrete ways to connect with others.
1. Face the world as you want to be treated
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Six Ways to Make Friends More Easily

Friday, June 11th, 2010

I met my high school boyfriend when I was upset and swung open my locker door so fast I banged him on the head as he was leaning into his locker. Not everyone can take such a first encounter in stride let alone retort with a grin, “If this is how you treat strangers how [...]

To Boost Your “Game” be a Great Sidekick

Sunday, May 30th, 2010

After the Lakers’ stinging defeat to the Suns what stuck in my mind was the image of Kobe Bryant and Derek Fisher staying behind in the locker room after teammates had left to hash over what happened. The intense conversation was their singular focus. That’s a sure sign of a strong partnership. How do they [...]

“Fight or Flight” Syndrome is Half Right

Monday, May 10th, 2010

“’There was this joke that when the women who worked in the lab were stressed, they came in, cleaned the lab, had coffee, and bonded,” Dr. Laura Cousin Klein told Gale Berkowitz.  ”When the men were stressed, they holed up somewhere on their own. I commented one day to fellow researcher Shelley Taylor that nearly [...]

The Velcro Effect of Praise and Insults

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

“.. .she pointed the audience to people who were great examples of living their dreams with a very motivating and empowering attitude,” Heather Parlato wrote about Colleen Wainwright.
Praising individuals in the audience is especially helpful when facing a tough crowd as I described in a comment here. Bill Clinton, at his best, is a master [...]

What to Do When a Friend Betrays You

Saturday, March 6th, 2010

Recently two friends broke trust with me. One offered to do something that was vital to me, didn’t and didn’t tell me. Another shared private information about me with a stranger who then told several people who work with me.
I don’t know which betrayal felt worse. I do know they can be seen as an [...]

Can You Come Out and Play?

Thursday, December 31st, 2009

Just as Daniel Gilbert discovered in Stumbling on Happiness that we aren’t adept at knowing how happy we will be in the future, Gal Zauberman and John G. Lynch found that we get it wrong about how much free time we’ll have. They dryly dub this effect, “Resource Slack.” 

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What Holiday Role Do You Want to Play… This Year?

Monday, December 14th, 2009

Something in yesterday’s “Modern Love“ column struck me as ringing true, not only for enduring marriages but for flourishing friendships, “Being single is all about the future, about the person you’re going to meet at Starbucks or after answering the next scientific compatibility questionnaire. Being married, after a certain point, is about the past, about a steadily [...]

Which side of the Opportunity Chasm are You On?

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

In a world that increasingly favors thinkers (vs. laborers) huge changes are happening, including these four, observes Arnold King:
1.  The nature of marriage has changed: “Men & women look for complementarity in consumption rather than in production.”
2.  “Achievement-oriented men looking for interesting mates rather than for good maids.”
3.  There’s “greater inequality across households” - [...]

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