Partners – romantic and otherwise – tend to fight when one feels neglected or threatened. When Peter Bregman’s wife yelled from two rooms away, “at least pack the shampoo” she was feeling neglected.
Recognizing which underlying feeling is being evoked helps you know how to resolve the conflict. So discovered psychology professor Keith Sanford.
Which one is [...]

“’There was this joke that when the women who worked in the lab were stressed, they came in, cleaned the lab, had coffee, and bonded,” Dr. Laura Cousin Klein told Gale Berkowitz.  ”When the men were stressed, they holed up somewhere on their own. I commented one day to fellow researcher Shelley Taylor that nearly [...]

It is the moment when people see your best side.
That’s most likely to happen when you really click with a person or situation. Conversely a bad reaction can quickly spiral down into conflict, even enmity.
What’s the most likely way for someone to see you at your best? It is when you bring out their top [...]

“Here’s your latte. Want to sit there to decide which of those people to put on the team? Here let me move my computer bag over so you have room.”
Imagine you were the person who took the latte in that scene. Subconsciously you’re being primed. You’re getting sensory cues that influenced how you felt about [...]

After seeing her grandma struggling to hold heavy pans, Celia Gates recruited an inventor as a mentor then designed ergonomic pans. Kayley Vincent and Jennifer Land created a cookbook that turned local business owners into foodie stars – and turned a profit for them. With churchgoers’ support, Henry Pearce raised money by donning a 1920s bathing suit. What sparked their entrepreneurial [...]

… is to have someone to “stand by you”, writes empathic Pamela Slim. Here are two of her

 Me2We suggestions for pulling yourself through hard times by involving others.

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It took me awhile to finally decide to write this post as it runs against the tide of most readers’ opinions. And many feel strongly as I discovered at dinner last night with friends, but here goes. Outliers purports to reveal the real reason some people — like Bill Joy, the Beatles and Bill Gates— are successful. [...]

Motorists in St. Louis helped each other in a novel way when road construction made driving difficult. Other drivers found their street was in the wrong place on their personal navigation devices? If you use

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… is more important than who grooms you,” observed Stanford biologist, Robert Sapolsky.  He studies baboons, humans, group behavior and stress. “Social support is vital, no matter how healthy you are.”
Suggests psychology professor Dacher Keltner,  “Human beings are wired to

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You, too, may laugh in amusement at these Candid Camera style “experiments.” Yet, ruefully, I acknowledge that I might conform within minutes… well seconds?
Also, see this other well-known (among psychologists, anyway) “people are sheep” experiment by Solomon Asch. Would you trust your eyes or

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