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6 Ways to Enjoy Your Life More, Starting Now

Tuesday, March 17th, 2015

“All of the significant battles are waged within the self,” wrote Sheldon Kopp. Some of our biggest inside battles involve changing habits to create a more meaningful, congenial life with others. Instead we instinctively, unhappily focus our self-talk in two things: those who seem much happier and more successful and our past failures, betrayals and regrets. Try these powerful simple research-based tips for turning the page to the chapter of the adventure story you are truly meant to live now.
1. “Life is like a 10 speed bicycle. Most of us have gears we never use,” Charles M. Schulz once wrote. Gretchen Rubin told Anne Kreamer that when clerking for then Justice Sandra Day O’Connor, “I realized that I would rather fail as a writer than succeed as a lawyer.” Rubin turned her hobby into her job, writing The Happiness Project, on the New York Times best-seller list for years….

Who You Are Around Affects Who You “Are”

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

To turn the page to the adventure story you want to live in 2015 and beyond focus on this as you go through your next few days: Notice the common traits of the situations in which you most thrive and with whom you shine. Only then can seek out more of those kinds of situation and individuals, in friendship and in love. Hint: Where does your best side come out and when are you able to use your best talents? Next, recognize that the opposite of love or fondness isn’t hate but disinterest. Emotions Revealed author, Paul Ekman takes that finding a bit further. In his research (described in Blink), Ekman discovered that when one person in a relationship of any kind expresses disgust for another the relationship is doomed. In fact, the higher the ratio of disgust vs. any kind of positive response one has to another in an interaction, the more rapidly the demise of that connection.

Ten Ways Opportunity Makers Jumpstart Successful Self-Organized Teams

Tuesday, November 25th, 2014

From companies to clubs to causes, groups most likely to succeed, today, need to keep top talent engaged by encouraging the nimble formation of self-organized teams to tackle opportunities and problems faster and better together. Those who can actually recruit the right team and be the glue that holds them together must have the reputation for being mutuality minded.

See Serendipity As A Way to Stay Relevant

Thursday, October 30th, 2014

Staying open to serendipitous introductions increases the chances you’ll cultivate a flexible mindset, recognizing more sides to a situation and discover more breakthroughs in your areas of strongest interest. Plus you’ll open more doors to unexpected happenings in the adventure story you are truly meant to live, with others.

Opportunity Makers Have Mutuality Mindsets

Monday, September 15th, 2014

Reimagine the world as a better place, spurred by ideas shared at TED@IBM including mine, perhaps: “The Web of Humanity: Becoming an Opportunity Maker.” Hint: a mutuality mindset probably matters more than your smarts, money, title or contacts in this increasingly complex yet connected world.

How to Have More Happiness Moments

Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

A key to enduring happiness and satisfaction is to recognize the reality one projects onto life situations, and consider altering how you approach them Get insights into exactly how from Shawn Achor, Barbara Frederickson, The Downtown Project and elsewhere.

How Can We Be So Wrong About What Others Are Thinking?

Thursday, June 26th, 2014

Who’s more preoccupied by sex really? And why did some retired military officers get it wrong about how soldiers felt about repealing “don’t ask, don’t tell?” And why can big-eyed robots make us act more generously? Mistaken mind reading, as I learned in Nicholas Epley’s fascinating book, Mindwise.

Why Do We Laugh?

Monday, March 17th, 2014

Ready to crack the surprising Humor Code for one of the main reasons we laugh? From stand-up comedy to laughing (the right way) after a tragic event, see what a scientist and a journalist discovered after taking their search around the world.

Nudge Others To Share Even If You Aren’t DeGeneres

Wednesday, March 5th, 2014

Even if you aren’t a likeable, well-financed celebrity like Ellen DeGeneres, you can get your actions, ideas and products shared and keep your key people engaged in these three ways. Hint: a mutuality mindset boosts sharing

The Gift Of Fear. The Penalties Of Worry.

Thursday, February 20th, 2014

See Worry As A Form Of Self-harassment:Worry will not bring solutions. Instead, worry distracts from finding solutions. To free yourself from worry sooner, understand what it really is.

with Kare Anderson

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