To turn the page to the adventure story you want to live in 2015 and beyond focus on this as you go through your next few days: Notice the common traits of the situations in which you most thrive and with whom you shine. Only then can seek out more of those kinds of situation and individuals, in friendship and in love. Hint: Where does your best side come out and when are you able to use your best talents? Next, recognize that the opposite of love or fondness isn’t hate but disinterest. Emotions Revealed author, Paul Ekman takes that finding a bit further. In his research (described in Blink), Ekman discovered that when one person in a relationship of any kind expresses disgust for another the relationship is doomed. In fact, the higher the ratio of disgust vs. any kind of positive response one has to another in an interaction, the more rapidly the demise of that connection.
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From companies to clubs to causes, groups most likely to succeed, today, need to keep top talent engaged by encouraging the nimble formation of self-organized teams to tackle opportunities and problems faster and better together. Those who can actually recruit the right team and be the glue that holds them together must have the reputation for being mutuality minded.
Staying open to serendipitous introductions increases the chances you’ll cultivate a flexible mindset, recognizing more sides to a situation and discover more breakthroughs in your areas of strongest interest. Plus you’ll open more doors to unexpected happenings in the adventure story you are truly meant to live, with others.
Reimagine the world as a better place, spurred by ideas shared at TED@IBM including mine, perhaps: “The Web of Humanity: Becoming an Opportunity Maker.” Hint: a mutuality mindset probably matters more than your smarts, money, title or contacts in this increasingly complex yet connected world.
A key to enduring happiness and satisfaction is to recognize the reality one projects onto life situations, and consider altering how you approach them Get insights into exactly how from Shawn Achor, Barbara Frederickson, The Downtown Project and elsewhere.
Who’s more preoccupied by sex really? And why did some retired military officers get it wrong about how soldiers felt about repealing “don’t ask, don’t tell?” And why can big-eyed robots make us act more generously? Mistaken mind reading, as I learned in Nicholas Epley’s fascinating book, Mindwise.
Ready to crack the surprising Humor Code for one of the main reasons we laugh? From stand-up comedy to laughing (the right way) after a tragic event, see what a scientist and a journalist discovered after taking their search around the world.
Even if you aren’t a likeable, well-financed celebrity like Ellen DeGeneres, you can get your actions, ideas and products shared and keep your key people engaged in these three ways. Hint: a mutuality mindset boosts sharing
See Worry As A Form Of Self-harassment:Worry will not bring solutions. Instead, worry distracts from finding solutions. To free yourself from worry sooner, understand what it really is.
Like loving mothers, successful companies build trust by demonstrating they care enough to put our needs first, even, sometimes when it is not in their immediate interest. In fact, many companies are misreading their customers repeat buying as loyalty when often it’s not. See these specific ways that some companies do act like caring mothers.