They don’t listen.
Some women are nodding as they read this and some men feel prickles of irritation.
And what do men most resent about women other than not enough, well, you know? Women try to change (“improve”) their man.
“Conventional wisdom: women use 20,000 words a day, men 7,000. Come cocktail hour, hubby played out. Wife frustrated: 13,000 words to go, no takers. Bad for sex,” writes Donald G. McNeil, Jr. in a pithy, humorous piece in the New York Times.
That’s one reason some eventually leave.
Yet many of us believe that speaking to, not the down side of our differences, but rather the sweet spot of shared interests and positive feelings with someone who is quite different is precious opportunity for greater growth and adventure, in friendship, work and, yes, love.
If you (or someone you know) is on either side of these intimacy-breakers consider perusing How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It (now that’s a popular title).
Let’s conclude with a bit of humor from that columnist, Donald McNeil:
“Man: Study here says women talk twice as much as men.
Wife: Of course we do. We have to repeat everything we say.