Archive for December, 2011

Sometimes Worry is Worthless and Fear is a Friend

Saturday, December 31st, 2011

We women generally worry more than men.  For example, “While men are bearing the brunt of the job losses, women report much higher levels of fear and worry about their families’ financial security than men do” and women worry more than their husbands about prostate cancer coming back.

Yet it is vital to recognize the difference between worry [...]

The Hidden Opportunity in Being Verbally Attacked

Sunday, December 25th, 2011

Years ago a candidate for California Superintendant of Schools repeatedly insinuated that his opponent was lying on her business tax returns and had an affair with a student intern. His charges were immediately disputed by her accountant, the student and several co-workers at her firm.
Not surprisingly, the attacks generated considerable interest in their first televised [...]

Make the Next Chapter of Your Life Story the Adventure You Really Want to Live

Tuesday, December 20th, 2011

Writing of her secret life as a prostitute, a blogger with the pseudonym Belle de Jour had a backstory worthy of a movie script. In fact it was turned into a Showtime TV series. She wanted to have a satisfying next chapter of her life story so she wrote about it. You see she’s “a respected specialist [...]

Kindness Can Opens Hearts and Unexpected Opportunities

Sunday, December 18th, 2011

Holidays are times of great loving and loneliness and we often don’t know who is experiencing which. For many it is a bit of both.
For us all this can be a prime time for kindness, sometimes by sharing what we have.
And kindness is often unspoken. “An eye can threaten like a loaded and leveled [...]

Why Waiters Cried Serving Breakfast

Friday, December 16th, 2011

After a priest moved to a new parish he approached his superior one afternoon to ask, “Would you mind if I smoked while praying?” and was, not surprisingly, turned down.
Yet how one makes a request has a huge impact on whether it will be  granted. For example, the priest might have said, “Would you mind [...]

Two Secrets to Daily Happiness

Tuesday, December 13th, 2011

Simplify.
It’s clarifying.
Only then can one can focus. Focus on what is really going on. From the inside out
What do you feel right now?  What most matters to you?
What is happening, truly happening with those in the scene you are playing out right now?
What best serves the situation?  My friend Nate says, “What would love do now?”
Gratefulness. [...]

Why Seeking Meaning in Most Any Action Sometimes Getting Us Into Trouble

Sunday, December 11th, 2011

Even when shown circles, triangles and other geometric objects randomly moving about on a screen, we tend to turn them into familiar objects.  Then we instinctively attempt to determine what they mean, a study found.
Two examples:
1. “When asked what they had been watching, the subjects used words like ”chase” and ”capture.” They did not just see the [...]

Feel you flubbed that last speech? you gave?

Saturday, December 10th, 2011

You’ll feel much better after watching Phil Davison’s emotional appeal for support.
To put it dryly his talk amply demonstrates that being genuine and emotionally committed to one’s point of view does not necessarily mean you will connect with your audience.. Also, having apparently apt credentials like a Masters in Communication, does not necessarily mean one [...]

Don’t Get Caught Off-Guard

Monday, December 5th, 2011

Wincing I glanced down. It hadn’t taken much to make that small blister appear in the hollow of my palm, that most tender of places on one’s hand. It’s my writing hand where a thin flap of skin now folded back.
I’d just planted 30 daffodil bulbs in my garden but had neglected to wear gloves.
Suddenly [...]

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