Comments on: I Knew What You Meant When You Touched Me http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/ Succeed and Savor Life With Others...by Kare Anderson. What can we do better together? For greater accomplishment, adventure and friendship let’s harness the power of us. Share ways to thrive in this next chapter of your life with others. Sat, 28 Jan 2012 01:24:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rachel Conine http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4661 Rachel Conine Sun, 20 Feb 2011 20:25:17 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/#comment-4661 This article provides a lot to think about in regards to those around me. My family are not big huggers, but we do hug. Especially my 3 boys - grown men. My daughter is the only one who isn't much of a hugger/toucher. Now I wonder why? Reaching out and touching someone on the arm while talking seems like a natural thing to do; but I guess it isn't for everyone. This article provides a lot to think about in regards to those around me. My family are not big huggers, but we do hug. Especially my 3 boys – grown men. My daughter is the only one who isn’t much of a hugger/toucher. Now I wonder why?

Reaching out and touching someone on the arm while talking seems like a natural thing to do; but I guess it isn’t for everyone.

]]> By: Kare Anderson http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/comment-page-1/#comment-3877 Kare Anderson Thu, 24 Jun 2010 16:32:29 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/#comment-3877 Now we learn that a woman's touch on the shoulder of a man - or a woman - emboldens that person to take more risks. Mysteriously (to me anyway) a man's touch does not have that affect on women or men. "The researchers draw a line between this finding to previous research on how a woman’s touch affects an infant, making the child feel more secure and comfortable. It’s entirely possible that a woman’s touch works the same on adults—making them feel more secure and willing to take risks." Read more here http://pss.sagepub.com/content/early/2010/04/16/0956797610369493.abstract http://trueslant.com/daviddisalvo/2010/05/17/how-a-womans-touch-can-make-you-risk-it-all/ Now we learn that a woman’s touch on the shoulder of a man – or a woman – emboldens that person to take more risks. Mysteriously (to me anyway) a man’s touch does not have that affect on women or men.

“The researchers draw a line between this finding to previous research on how a woman’s touch affects an infant, making the child feel more secure and comfortable. It’s entirely possible that a woman’s touch works the same on adults—making them feel more secure and willing to take risks.”

Read more here http://pss.sagepub.com/content/early/2010/04/16/0956797610369493.abstract

http://trueslant.com/daviddisalvo/2010/05/17/how-a-womans-touch-can-make-you-risk-it-all/

]]> By: Kare Anderson http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2696 Kare Anderson Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:49:43 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/#comment-2696 Mike The emotional intelligence stems from empathy - a capacity to notice what the other person wants - whether touching (if and how) makes them feel more or less comfortable when around you. Just as our first instinct is to give what we want to receive, rather than stepping outside ourselves and into another's shoes - EQ involves thinking/feeling about the other person. Mike
The emotional intelligence stems from empathy – a capacity to notice what the other person wants – whether touching (if and how) makes them feel more or less comfortable when around you.
Just as our first instinct is to give what we want to receive, rather than stepping outside ourselves and into another’s shoes – EQ involves thinking/feeling about the other person.

]]> By: Mike Rogers http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2692 Mike Rogers Thu, 27 Aug 2009 21:13:12 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/#comment-2692 Interesting Kare. I am one of those people who love being touched and like to touch. When I communicate often times I will touch a shoulder (briefly) or an arm to make a point and make a connection, but never the face (I am a man). I like it when people do the same when I am talking to them, but I believe I can tell when it isn’t sincere. I am that way at home with my children. When I talk I feel I need to reach out and touch and hug. I also consider myself someone with high emotional intelligence, though I haven't ever been tested. I wonder if there is a correlation between emotional intelligence and the need to touch and be touched? It makes sense if you are trying to constantly gauge ones emotions. - Mike Rogers Interesting Kare. I am one of those people who love being touched and like to touch. When I communicate often times I will touch a shoulder (briefly) or an arm to make a point and make a connection, but never the face (I am a man). I like it when people do the same when I am talking to them, but I believe I can tell when it isn’t sincere. I am that way at home with my children. When I talk I feel I need to reach out and touch and hug.

I also consider myself someone with high emotional intelligence, though I haven’t ever been tested. I wonder if there is a correlation between emotional intelligence and the need to touch and be touched? It makes sense if you are trying to constantly gauge ones emotions.

- Mike Rogers

]]> By: Kare Anderson http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2690 Kare Anderson Mon, 24 Aug 2009 01:03:21 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/#comment-2690 Paul I guess my sort cheeky response is this - you seem to be in touch with what feels best to you about being touched - and why + you know others have different feelings about touching and being touched - so you don't "need" to change or learn anything more except perhaps being comfortable with your knowledge and also finding ways to avoid being touched by acquaintances that don't make you or that person feel awkward. Paul
I guess my sort cheeky response is this – you seem to be in touch with what feels best to you about being touched – and why + you know others have different feelings about touching and being touched – so you don’t “need” to change or learn anything more except perhaps being comfortable with your knowledge and also finding ways to avoid being touched by acquaintances that don’t make you or that person feel awkward.

]]> By: Paul Benner http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2682 Paul Benner Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:06:50 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/08/15/i-knew-what-you-meant-when-you-touched-me/#comment-2682 Interesting article. I can't disagree with it, but I don't feel really comfortable touching. I had a boss once who liked putting his arm around me as we walked and talked. He probably didn't even realize he was doing it, but it drove me crazy. My parents were never very touchy-feely, and maybe that's why I am the way I am. The part that has me wondering is...should I be concerned about the fact that I'm not concerned? Interesting article. I can’t disagree with it, but I don’t feel really comfortable touching. I had a boss once who liked putting his arm around me as we walked and talked. He probably didn’t even realize he was doing it, but it drove me crazy. My parents were never very touchy-feely, and maybe that’s why I am the way I am. The part that has me wondering is…should I be concerned about the fact that I’m not concerned?

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