Comments on: Use Humor to Defuse Tension, Befriend and Have More Fun http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/04/28/use-humor-to-defuse-tension-befriend-and-have-more-fun/ Succeed and Savor Life With Others...by Kare Anderson. What can we do better together? For greater accomplishment, adventure and friendship let’s harness the power of us. Share ways to thrive in this next chapter of your life with others. Sat, 28 Jan 2012 01:24:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Kare Anderson http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/04/28/use-humor-to-defuse-tension-befriend-and-have-more-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-2452 Kare Anderson Fri, 22 May 2009 14:58:44 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/04/28/use-humor-to-defuse-tension-befriend-and-have-more-fun/#comment-2452 Self-deprecation is such an attractive quality, one that we in the U.S. do not see modeled that much. And, Dan, some kinds of physical humor (facial expressions and other acting out) may translate better between cultures. I'm honored by the high calibre of both your comments Self-deprecation is such an attractive quality, one that we in the U.S. do not see modeled that much. And, Dan, some kinds of physical humor (facial expressions and other acting out) may translate better between cultures. I’m honored by the high calibre of both your comments

]]> By: Dan Erwin http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/04/28/use-humor-to-defuse-tension-befriend-and-have-more-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-2404 Dan Erwin Fri, 01 May 2009 17:45:16 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/04/28/use-humor-to-defuse-tension-befriend-and-have-more-fun/#comment-2404 As Frank suggests, there is little more useful than self-deprecation. Having lived in three different worlds, I find that business has more difficulty with self-deprecation than other industries. I initially thought it was a problem for medicine, but more and more it's used in serious medicine, perhaps because of the changing societal position of physicians. Smart parish ministers have made it an art for getting serious ideas across, while defusing some opposing church members. A significant portion of humanity seems to lack a penchant for humor in work settings. The quantity and quality seems to vary from culture to culture. In the Upper Midwest where we've lived for 35 years, you have to be cautious about humor--the work ethic doesn't always view it as appropriate. But it goes far more easily for me in Chicago, Detroit or New York. Intriguingly, intercultural studies show that humor is one of the most difficult skills for integrating people of other cultures. In other words, what's funny in one situation ain't funny in another. People can pick up on nonverbals before they "get" the humor. As Frank suggests, there is little more useful than self-deprecation. Having lived in three different worlds, I find that business has more difficulty with self-deprecation than other industries. I initially thought it was a problem for medicine, but more and more it’s used in serious medicine, perhaps because of the changing societal position of physicians. Smart parish ministers have made it an art for getting serious ideas across, while defusing some opposing church members.

A significant portion of humanity seems to lack a penchant for humor in work settings. The quantity and quality seems to vary from culture to culture. In the Upper Midwest where we’ve lived for 35 years, you have to be cautious about humor–the work ethic doesn’t always view it as appropriate. But it goes far more easily for me in Chicago, Detroit or New York.

Intriguingly, intercultural studies show that humor is one of the most difficult skills for integrating people of other cultures. In other words, what’s funny in one situation ain’t funny in another. People can pick up on nonverbals before they “get” the humor.

]]> By: Frank Lane http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/04/28/use-humor-to-defuse-tension-befriend-and-have-more-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-2402 Frank Lane Thu, 30 Apr 2009 18:55:20 +0000 http://www.movingfrommetowe.com/2009/04/28/use-humor-to-defuse-tension-befriend-and-have-more-fun/#comment-2402 Aristotle was very clear on the principle of self-deprecation as a means to establishing ETHOS in his original Principles of Rhetoric. Aristotle was very clear on the principle of self-deprecation as a means to establishing ETHOS in his original Principles of Rhetoric.

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